When you think about being a woman what feelings come to the surface?
For me quite a few… the first is pain – I don’t even know why it’s first?
Maybe the generations and generations of abuse and pain women had to go through over the centuries?
But also beauty, strength, miracle, and gentleness..
Motherhood, wife, friendship, girlfriend… aging, and transformation…
Hard work, busyness, stress laughter, and fun…
And then my favourite soul… growth, awakening…
Likening, acceptance… spirituality…
Choices…
Being in control …
Getting to know yourself…
So why is it that we, as women, strive so hard to be perfect? Why do we try so desperately to look young indefinitely – to stay in shape and always look our best under any circumstance?
From my own experience and those of other mothers I know, it seems that once you become a parent, perfection becomes less important to you.
You learn to accept yourself—flaws and all; you put your own needs last (sometimes at the expense of taking care of yourself); feeling tired constantly/sleep-deprived becomes and everyday occurance.
But that is only for a period of time as you almost don’t have a choice.
But out of this came the realisation that becoming a mother made me understand that there is no perfect way to be, and that I needed to let go of perfection and accept myself as I am.
We all thrive to be perfect… in so many areas of our lives, but how can we be so perfect if we are so much?
So my message to you today is to let go of perfection and don’t wait for things you want to do.
Don’t wait for that massage to shave your legs first – you may not get to it for another few weeks…
Don’t wait for work to be less busy – that may never happen
Don’t wait to be thinner, fitter, more educated…
Don’t wait for that horse riding lesson to come to you – as you need to find time and space to book it and do it…
Don’t wait for that book to read when the house will be finally quiet!
Just take your space and take what you deserve…
Like a Queen!
As our Late Queen taught us… if you learn to receive and accept what you deserve, you can be anything you desire and she was a perfect example of this and accepted it with dignity and grace.
When you learn how to receive and accept yourself people want to give it too!
There is no perfect way to be a mother, wife, or employee – or any other role you may play in your life. But there are ways to be good at what you do and be the best version of yourself, and that is you, as you are now.
Don’t wait.
I’m so glad I learned this lesson from my mother, and now, with daughters of my own to raise who are my most important job of all, I am learning it yet again.
So don’t wait for It – whatever you want to do whether it is small or big – just do it!
Take action. And share it with us…
We would love to know so we can encourage one another
Love,
Ania xx